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The Conversation with Your SO
« on: November 29, 2017, 04:29:49 am »
How did you go about it?

Those of you that talked about this with your wives, fiances, and girlfriends, how did you start this conversation?

I apologize ahead of time if this topic has been brought up many times before, but I'm curious as to how I go about explaining to my wife (of three years now) that I would love for her to "go big." I am super attracted to her as it is, and she is a natural D cup, but I would love nothing more than for her to be a DD and beyond.

I am absolutely in love with my wife and am always honest and share everything with her...except when it comes to this. She knows that I like big breasts and prides herself in her D's and the fact that I love them. But I don't think she knows that I'd be thrilled if she were to go up a few more cups sizes.

Obviously I see the irony in asking a bunch of strangers to weigh in on this instead of talking directly to her about it, but I wanted to see who has had success bringing up this topic first. Have any of you had this conversation with your significant other?

Any suggestions or advice would be appreciated.


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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #1 on: November 29, 2017, 10:24:27 am »
I told her my preference in week 2 or 3 of dating and also left some XL porn easy to find on my PC (which she referenced when she said "I know what you are into." She told me early on that she "would do it for me" because of how she felt about me, but was slow to warm up to it. It took 18 months before we reached a point where I sort of made it clear that I was losing interest (really that it's hard to stay attracted mainly via imagination) and if she wanted me it would have to be more than talk. I had many weak, unmanly behaviors like basically persuasion tactics which I believe are actually counterproductive, but he has done it twice now when I've been sort of authoritative about it... words like "it's time". She sees me as her dominant, however, in a lot of natural ways at least, since I'm still learning a lot about being the leader. When a woman identifies you as her dominant, her alpha, she is subconsciously willing to do anything for you. Mine literally used words like "these boobs are yours" (to do with as you like).

It's not usually that straightforward, however. After 3 years if she feels in charge of the relationship, there's very little chance of her submitting fully to a man's ideals. I don't know your situation. However, I would read Ivan LeCasque's book since it's more tailored to the spectrum of women who might jump at the thought, but just haven't been presented the idea well by their husbands.

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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #2 on: November 30, 2017, 03:31:35 am »
From my experience, the only luck that I ever had with convincing girls to get implants were ones with A-cups and were very insecure about their small boobs. When I was dating these girls we were both too poor to actually afford implants, so we never actually went through with it. Now that I am in a much better financial position that I used to be I plan on following through next time the opportunity presents itself.

But as for convincing a girl, who does not want implants to get implants, I don't know what to do there. Finding a girl with a good amount of breast tissue who wants to go bigger is hard to find.

It is hard to convince most girls that are comfortable with their breasts to get implants is because... well... you are asking them to get surgery. No one likes the idea of being put under general anesthesia, cut open, and having two large foreign objects put inside of them. Not to mention the social implications of having large fake boobs. Her friends, family, coworkers, and peers will all have different reactions an no one likes to be judged negatively. I know there are many girls that don't care about what others think, but lots of them do, especially when its the people close to them who are making the negative remarks.

So if your girl is not willing to get implants, and you MUST have a girl with implants, then you might just want to throw in the towel and find a girl who is more open to getting them.

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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #3 on: December 03, 2017, 03:54:49 am »
If your girl is in a truly healthy long term relationship with you, she will do almost anything that pleases you... but by healthy I mean you are dominant and she is in love with you. The problem is very few relationships look like this. Feminism has 80% of us convinced that we are already misogynists just because of what we desire (especially tPB types), so you can imagine how pervasive the mindset of negotiating desires is not only in women, but men.

It's absolutely true that a large number of women will never be willing to let you change them, and they need to be let go. If you start with yourself, however, and become a man worth changing for, you will be shocked at the types of girls who will be willing. A truly healthy long term relationship depends on a woman being able to view her man as the highest value option for her indefinitely. This happens often in the short term, but long term a man has to constantly improve himself, in terms of body, mind, wealth, and social power.
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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #4 on: December 28, 2017, 09:40:35 pm »
I would love for my wife to get implants. I just feel that we would so close sexually. Been marries for 2 years (together over 10). She love to workout and show off her body but says she won't even think of implants until we are done with children. I bring it up at times to see if she is serious but she gets annoyed and says "it's my body". Would just like a promise or gaurantte from her that she will get them in the future

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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #5 on: December 29, 2017, 01:17:13 pm »
I don’t like the sound of that tbh. Promise or guarantee... What would you do if she won’t ever get implants? You clearly aren’t in a relationship with someone who A) Wants implants and/or B) Would consider going to such lengths just because it would please you. I don’t see how she’d end up with implants while also being happy about it. Don’t even consider getting kids for a chance at a boobjob, that would be fucked up
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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #6 on: December 29, 2017, 01:51:20 pm »
I don’t like the sound of that tbh. Promise or guarantee... What would you do if she won’t ever get implants? You clearly aren’t in a relationship with someone who A) Wants implants and/or B) Would consider going to such lengths just because it would please you. I don’t see how she’d end up with implants while also being happy about it. Don’t even consider getting kids for a chance at a boobjob, that would be fucked up


I guess I did not explain this properly but this was a topic between my wife and I that was brought up, she said she won't think of it until we are done with kids therefore this is not a bargaining chip.  I was excited of the though but as I have always wanted her to have implants. So when I ask her if she is serious and she basically says "wait until the last kid then we will see," It is not a detonate answer not a bargaining tool for her to get implants.

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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #7 on: December 29, 2017, 03:17:23 pm »
No, but what I wanna know is if you would stay with her (and have children) if she would say: “I won’t get implants ever”
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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #8 on: December 29, 2017, 03:31:14 pm »
Of course I would. Again, this is not a deal breaker situation. She teased me with the conversation and I wondering if it will happen since it is something I like.

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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #9 on: December 29, 2017, 10:02:28 pm »
Ah, well in that case best of luck I guess
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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #10 on: February 11, 2018, 10:34:44 pm »
I don’t like the sound of that tbh. Promise or guarantee... What would you do if she won’t ever get implants? You clearly aren’t in a relationship with someone who A) Wants implants and/or B) Would consider going to such lengths just because it would please you. I don’t see how she’d end up with implants while also being happy about it. Don’t even consider getting kids for a chance at a boobjob, that would be fucked up


I guess I did not explain this properly but this was a topic between my wife and I that was brought up, she said she won't think of it until we are done with kids therefore this is not a bargaining chip.  I was excited of the though but as I have always wanted her to have implants. So when I ask her if she is serious and she basically says "wait until the last kid then we will see," It is not a detonate answer not a bargaining tool for her to get implants.

Not to be "that guy" but there are distant echos of conversations I'd had with my ex-wife.

She had gone from generally indulging my interest in bigger boobs (she was a B-cup) where we would observe larger breasted women. It shifted over the years where it turned into her teasing me when a larger breasted woman was nearby. I could look at girlie magazines anymore because they had started to make her uncomfortable.

She wasn't all that into making herself stay fit, although we did try gym memberships once or twice. Heck, towards the tail end of our marriage, she found our "his and hers" workout gloves, going so far as to accusing me of having the extra pair "for your girlfriend". Like, wtf.

Out of the blue one day, she somewhat smugly asked me "What would you rather have, $10,000 or 56DDD boobs?" That was no contest, I chose the $10k. Yup, I had to explain to her how bra sizing worked.

Anyway. I do need to point out that if she's playing the "wait until the last kid then we will see," card, you're pretty much guaranteed that there never will be a "then we'll see". It'll be a foregone conclusion at that point. Her last holdout of plausible deniability will be in the past, and once she's got the kids she wanted as part of her lifelong bucket list, she can say or do whatever, because by that time you'll be too far in to back out, right?

If life is comfy, you probably won't change. I didn't. It took something of a revelation of what my life could be like for me to finally dig in and make some changes. It came at the cost of that marriage, but I'm in a much better place now, with a much more implant-friendly woman.

And for anyone who might be reading this with the eye of "well he only married his second wife because of the boobs", don't even. Nobody operates one-dimensionally. There are many factors to be considered to divorce, and many factors to be considered for marriage. There is a LOT to be said for being in a drama-free relationship. The boobjob is the proverbial icing on the cake.

Food for thought. You're not me, and you could quite possibly get what you want out of your current situ.


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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #11 on: February 14, 2018, 11:14:08 am »
Good post MD! In the end you should find someone who is as crazy as you are, in this case crazy views on female esthetics (and yes out fetish is obejectively speaking pretty crazy). The only other alternative is being in a relationship where one or both parties get join and pleasure out of pleasing their partner any way it takes. That way a girl who doesn’t care for large implants can still enjoy them and hopefully enough to deal with all the downsides (this seems to be the most common situation in our community). Forcing or tricking a partner into implants (typically a man forcing a woman) or using the promise of implants as a way to get what you want (typically a woman exploiting a man’s fetish) is always a bad idea and should morally be condemned.
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« Reply #12 on: February 19, 2018, 03:26:15 am »
I forgot to mention another turning point with my ex.

As mentioned, early on I thought that going bigger was something she had been entertaining. Apparently I'd been reading too much into it. To find out what happened, read on.

I had some vacation time to burn, so I stayed home a couple days. She went off to work, so I called a few plastic surgery clinics in town (this was pre-internet, so I was lacking the resources we now consider to be commonplace). Those conversations were quite short, and basically amounted to a ballpark price and basically "let us know if/when she wants to book a consult". That was it.

I was like, okay. Time to have the conversation. So once she was home from work and settled, I broached the subject. And maybe it wasn't as smooth as it should have been, I dunno.

She looked at me like I had 2 heads. She said "I am NOT putting foreign objects inside my body!" She might even have said "what made you think I wanted that?", but it was a long time ago. It didn't matter one bit that she'd had dental work which involved "putting foreign objects" into her body.

It's definitely a difficult subject to broach, if the two of you aren't on the same page. It's probably a difficult subject to broach if it's never been broached before, even if the two of you are on the same exact page. Lots of "are you sure / yeah I'm sure but are you" conversations. It can be a bit of a game-changer, if one or both of you aren't as fully dialed-in to the possible consequences (such as more attention, possibly unwanted attention).

When I met my ex, I don't know that I was as deep into my fondness for big boobs (fake or otherwise) as I clearly am now. I mean, it's possible I was, but it was such an exceptionally uncommon occurrence (seeing a woman with big boobs) that I don't think I really knew myself. I knew I was a boob man, but at the time, I suppose I was just happy that a woman was as into me as I was into her. I didn't have 'game' at all, and certainly didn't expend the effort to try going to different places (ie, kept going to the same places).

Another angle on all this is that amongst my circle of friends, none of them seemed to be particularly smitten by women with big boobs. Meaning, it just wasn't a consideration at all. The classic "more than a handful's a waste" saying. In one oddly irritating twist, my one friend ended up with an attractive woman who had a fairly prominent pair. When I mentioned it to him, he was basically like "*shrug* they're just boobs".

In another plot twist, another friend of mine (after I'd professed to him my particular bent) mentioned having done a bit of a long distance thing with one woman who, it turns out, had a rather significant pair. It wasn't until after he got with her that he then told me later on "that's when I finally understood what it was you liked about them". To be fair, he may or may not have fully appreciated it in the way I appreciate them, but I'm also not gonna say "you're a big fake phony". We like what we like, and I happily welcomed him to the club.

Anyway. To any single guys out there thinking "I'd rather be in any relationship than waiting forever for the perfect woman", I say this: if big boobs (fake or otherwise) are important to you, then make sure you either lay it all out there early in the relationship, or make sure you tell yourself (and her) that this will be at best a temporary relationship. She might (emphasis on *might*) appreciate it if you're honest with her, she might not appreciate you telling her that her boobs don't measure up. All about the timing and the phrasing (and the woman, and the man). Something like "I get it, you'll never get breast implants, and that's fine, so long as you're fine with us just having fun until whenever" might work out. It won't, if she's looking to settle down, of course. You might get along famously. Don't stay single if you're unhappy being single, but as long as you're single, get out there and do fun shit that doesn't require being with a woman, you might meet someone interesting. For example, years ago I thought it was time to get my motorcycle license, so I did one of those weekend training/certification courses. There was one woman there who seemed to click with me, and her rack was hard to miss. Maybe she was engaging because I wasn't trying to hit on her, I dunno. I just thought it was odd that she was there and her husband wasn't. Like, this seemed like something fun to do together. The point being, there are single women out there who have decided they're not gonna sit by the phone or go to bars and let life pass them by.

Fwiw, when I was living in another state, I'd found an online Yahoo chat group which was mostly localized. Eventually a bunch of us got together for dinner and pub nights. I'd made it abundantly clear online what I liked, and wouldn't let anyone try to shame me for it. It got to the point that it was a bit of a running gag; I don't recall there being any women who were disgusted with my position (or if there were, they were in the minority), and there was one who even told me she would consider getting a boobjob. I no longer clearly recall whether there was a "... for you, if we were dating" attached to it, but I do remember her telling me she used to have huge boobs and got a reduction. We had no other chemistry, so I just politely said "uh-huh" and left it at that.

Apologies if this sounds like dating advice. In a way, I'm venting a little. I wish I could take my knowledge and understanding and wisdom (such as it is) and send it back in time to my 20-year old self. Although I did have various relationships of varying quality and duration, there's something to be said for unambiguously knowing what you want and refusing to compromise, while still being a kind and caring person. If what I have is a weakness or a twisted kink, then I'm glad to have met someone to share it with. Damn glad to have gotten that out there very early on, too.


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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #13 on: February 22, 2018, 11:43:26 am »
Read my thread in the surgery section about playing the long (very long) game.

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Re: The Conversation with Your SO
« Reply #14 on: June 27, 2018, 07:52:15 pm »
It’s funny I live in Vegas and up until recently for the past 2 years i worked at 2 different stripclubs as a host. So I was lucky enough to be literally surrounded by implants everyday and the majority of the girls I hook up with have them. Knowing this industry I could never take any of them serious for more than just sex plus I didn’t want to be tied down.

But now I’m thinking about my future and my urges to create the ultimate plastic girl to be in a committed relationship are kicking in. I’m talking freak size implants and other operations. Going forward I will make my niche known very early in (like the first week) And if they aren’t into it I’ll just move on to the next. That way I know I’ll end up with the right one regarding making her get surgeries. It would suck really bad to be trapped in a marriage with a girl you know could never truly provide what gets you off the most
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